For Guys

First and foremost, don’t panic. Your upcoming decisions aren’t on your shoulders alone. You have a partner to navigate next steps with and she needs you now more than ever. Look out for her both emotionally and physically. How? Check out our tips below.

What to do:

Talk with her and LISTEN. Ghosting her or leaving her on read isn’t going to make this go away. In fact, it’s going to make things a lot harder for both of you. Have frequent open and honest conversations!

Talk with some people you trust. Yeah, you may want to keep it a secret during the initial shock. But the people who will be directly involved (parents, close friends, etc.) HAVE to know what’s going on eventually. Who knows, maybe they’ll even be willing to help!

Educate yourself. How can you help if you don’t really know what’s going on in her body? Learn about what is happening both to her body and to your baby with each trimester. Go to parenting classes. Go to her birthing classes. Read a book about pregnancy. Listen to a podcast during your workout. The more informed you are, the less confusion you’ll feel!

Talk about your feelings. Be honest with her and with yourself! This isn’t the time to cover up your feelings. Scared? Say that! Anxious? Say that! Confused? Say that! Chances are, she is feeling all the same things and knowing that you aren’t alone in your feelings can be a huge relief.

Lastly, be there for her. In the big ways and the small ways. Let her know that no matter what happens, all decisions will be made as a team. Remember, you’re in this together!

Have more questions?

No doubt, this is hard. We’re ready to help if you or your partner have more questions or concerns.